This year I’m not resolving. I’m responding.
Like most of you, I didn’t keep my 2013 resolutions. I planned to hit the gym and put on 15 pounds of muscle, spend less than $40 per night on drinks (mind you, a Manhattan in Manhattan runs at least $12 not including tax and tip) and change careers. On December 31st I was batting 0-3.
I struck out.
BUT 2014 will be different because I’m not resolving anything. Resolutions don’t work, and here’s why:
- We’re not really committed. If so, we wouldn’t need a date change to change course and go after what we want
- The finish line is too far. Have you ever done something for 365 days?! That’s a lot of time and habits take too long to form.
- Something comes up. Stuff always happens.
See, we let life happen to us so things never go according to plan. It’s not our plan!
It will take longer, cost you more and you’ll get less than you expected. And how does it manifest? Well, the weight doesn’t come off as quickly, money seems to magically disappear and that new position won’t be available until April, at the earliest. So we wait until next year when everything will be different.
Resolutions are reactions to what went wrong.
Look at it like this. You have an interest, a goal or a passionate pursuit. It’s a seed, and it’s your job to nourish it’s growth. Not feeling up to the challenge? Nip your nervousness in the bud. Too many obstacles standing in your way? Take temporary cover from the rain. Coming up short? Spread out far and wide and seek guidance elsewhere.
No, you can’t control the sunshine or send the rain. What you can do is expect the good, anticipate the bad, and adjust your response to whatever life hands you.
Be it a lemon or otherwise, the fruits of your labor are sewn proactively. Respond and then harvest your reward.